It reminds me of a survivor named Jane. Jane is a young mom of three girls, and not only has she had cancer twice, but she also discovered that her partner isn’t who she thought he was. Unfortunately, this happens to many of us when we get into these intense medical journeys. Sometimes the people that are closest to us show their true colors when we’re going through these tough times. For Jane, not only did she have to deal with the fact that she had cancer and went through treatment, but she also had the additional stresses of caring for her three young girls and a divorce from her husband.
Jane is a perfect example of a survivor in that constantly stressed “survivor state”. Not only was she fearful because she didn’t know what was going to happen to her daughters, but she was also confused because she found out that her partner isn’t who she thought he was. She was frozen, unable to take steps forward, because of the fear of having cancer again and what it would mean for her and her daughters if she were to go through treatment another time. She also felt crushed and deflated because all of a sudden a main member of her support network was disappearing.
Jane and I came up with a plan to be able to move her out of that frozen state. The first thing was to address her stress state. We created a care plan that integrated the use of herbs to support her nervous system, along with mindfulness techniques, and acupuncture. The additional benefit of the acupuncture for her was that the treatment itself allowed her 20 minutes once a week, where she could relax quietly by herself, and actually get into that meditative state. Through these fairly simple strategies, we were able to move her out of her stressed state in a fairly short time, and help her start to shift into thriving.
Once we gained some momentum, we also worked on releasing trauma from the past. This was a big step because it required some significant self-work from Jane, as well as a lot of support. When we release trauma from the past it can be obvious things like actual diagnosis and treatment, but it also can go deeper, including other traumas from other major life experiences. This was the case for Jane. She had to go through the trauma of her cancer journey, but also the additional trauma of her divorce.
It can feel overwhelming to start down this path of healing, but the emotional freedom and sense of fortitude are undoubtedly worth it, for you and the people around you.